Magick and the Art of Non-Attachment

fd140716purplesunset1Magick is all about creating change. The impulse to do magick comes from some desire that you have for things in your life to be different in some way. Therefore, when you do magick you’re coming from a place of having a strong desire, which is connected to your will to craft that desired change.

The paradox is, though, that when you’re doing magick, there is a point at which you need to let go. You wrap your will energy around that desire you’re so passionate about, and drop it into the ocean of consciousness. Then you let go, and you wait.

It’s not always easy, the waiting.

Your strong desire pushes you to hurry, to manifest, to cling to that wanted thing or situation or person with all your might. You need it. You must have it! Where the hell is it?!

Instead, it’s essential to cultivate the art of non-attachment. Non-attachment, in the Buddhist faith, is a state of letting emotions come and go without clinging to them. It allows you to free yourself from negativity and expand your compassion. Non-attachment can be applied to the magick you’re doing, as well.

When you are creating your magick spell, you are most likely envisioning the outcome you wish to manifest. You picture your dream house, you list out the ideal qualities of the lover you want to attract, you imagine your bank account with five or six figures. However, once you’ve set things in motion, it’s key to let go of the very outcomes you’ve been visualizing.

The Universe might have something even better in store for you – or at least something very different, which will nonetheless fulfill your desire.

I’ve found that it helps me to cultivate my non-attachment to the outcome when I return to the reason behind the desire. WHY do you want the new home, the lover, the money? What are you seeking, truly? Is it space to spread out and be creative, a companion for the long winter nights, the security of knowing your bills will be paid at the end of each month? When you look for the WHY behind your original desire, you’ll see the broader picture. You’ll be able to see that there are a myriad of ways your desire could come true.

This gives your magick a chance to work. It gives the Universe the opportunity to bring you just the very gift that will uplift your experience and help you grow.

Practice non-attachment, while still actively doing the work to manifest your desires, and you’ll see how beautifully your dreams can come true.

Starcat’s Ten Best Books of 2016

rp_amazingbook-300x169.jpgHey fellow book lovers! It’s time to share my ten favorite reads from last year. As always, please note that these aren’t necessarily books that came out in 2016. They’re just my top favorites of the 54 books I read during the year.

Without further ado, here’s the list!

City of Refuge by Starhawk. Oh, so very, very good… This is a sequel to her novel The Fifth Sacred Thing, which is on my list of all-time favorite stories. I was a little worried that it wouldn’t live up to the original, but I needn’t have been. I most highly recommend the whole series (there’s a prequel, too, called Walking to Mercury). Simply outstanding.

The Top Ten Things Dead People Want to Tell YOU by Mike Dooley. This author has a talent for making spirituality whimsical and simple, while still deep enough to be captivating. His latest book is excellent.

Dream Alchemy: Shaping Our Dreams to Transform Our Lives by Ted Andrews. Using myths and tales from around the world and universal archetypes, Andrews teaches you how to deftly use your personal dreams to shed light on your life and your purpose. I’m really into dreams, and I find this to be one of the best and most useful books on dreaming I’ve read yet (another dream author I highly recommend is Robert Moss).

Clariel: The Lost Abhorsen by Garth Nix. Having read the original Abhorsen trilogy as a family back when the kids were little, this prequel intrigued me. It was excellent. My favorite thing about this book is how the author takes a known evil character from the trilogy, and tells her story in a way that makes her a sympathetic main character. That really takes some skill! Even if you don’t know the Abhorsen trilogy, it’s a terrific story.

The Book of Ho’oponopono: The Hawaiian Practice of Forgiveness and Healing by Luc Bodin, Nathalie Bodin Lamboy, and Jean Graciet. This book has both science and spirituality, mingled together in a readable way. Ho’oponopono is a spiritual practice connected with shamanism, prayer, and quantum metaphysics. The authors weave many disparate topics together seamlessly, and ultimately describe Ho’oponopono as “an art of living, not a therapy.” I tried the Ho’oponopono technique for myself, and found it to be very effective. It is simple and portable, yet the effects can be seen almost immediately, both within my own psyche and in the changes in my outer-world experience. Read this book, and then try it for yourself!

Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I took my time with this book, savoring a short chapter or two at a time. Dr. Dyer’s translation of the Tao Te Ching is lyrical and clear. His short essays about each precept are thought-provoking. I learned a lot from this book.

The Ancient Secret of the Flower of Life (Volumes 1 and 2) by Drunvalo Melchizedek. This is another set of books from which I learned a ton. If you are at all interested in sacred geometry and how the Universe works (in a mystical sense), Melchizedek is essential reading.

Thank & Grow Rich: A 30-Day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy by Pam Grout. BlackLion and I read this at the same time, and started our 30-day gratitude experiment in mid-September. I’m still doing it as part of my daily practice. Pam Grout has a talent for creating compelling practices and games that coax you to uplevel your vibration. Quick to implement, easy, and joyful.

The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul by Danielle LaPorte. This book actually took me longer than a year to read and work through, off and on. Not because it’s not good – it’s just a deep process. I emerged with my power words (which LaPorte calls core desired feelings), including LUMINOUS, which is my 2017 word of the year. This book is powerful spiritual tool.

A Discovery of Witches by Deborah Harkness. I can’t believe I hadn’t read this sooner (it was published in 2011, and is the first book of a trilogy). I loved it. It has witches, vampires, and demons, an epic love story, and scholarly research. What’s not to love? Seriously though, the writing is good and the story is captivating. I look forward to book two.

I also want to mention my own new book that I wrote and published in 2016. The Heart of the Goddess: A Handbook for Living Soulfully is my favorite of the four books I’ve written so far. I think that’s because it encompasses my mission so fully. You can find out more about it here.

Happy reading!

On Becoming Luminous

visionboardjan17Each year, I share my Word of the Year and some words about how it came about, in order to hopefully inspire you in your own journey (and because it’s fun to share). This year, my word is LUMINOUS.

Last May, I received a copy of The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte for Mother’s Day. I worked through it over the next several months, and chose a handful of words that resonated most with me. If you’re not familiar with her work, Danielle LaPorte teaches that rather than pick goals, we can look behind the goals to see why we want to achieve them. Or in other words, we can focus on how we want to feel in our lives.

LUMINOUS was one of the words I chose as part of that process. As a word of the year for 2017, it makes sense on several levels. Last year I began working on visibility as an author and entrepreneur, with a business coach to help me focus on which steps to take. Becoming a beacon for those who want to read my books and attend our Feline Dreamers workshops and classes is part of that process. It will help shine the light of the Feminine Divine even more widely, which is part of my soul’s calling. Thus, LUMINOUS!

I’ve also been going deeper and deeper into my meditation practice and working with my energy system over the past couple of years. LUMINOUS reminds me that I’m connected with the Divine light of which all things in the cosmos are made. As I continue to meditate and clear my energy system daily, and return to that connection in moments of doubt, I’m becoming more sparkly and bright.

Finally, one of the things I want to focus on this year is improving my physical wellness. I’m pretty healthy overall, but I’m carrying some extra weight and it’s affecting my life in ways I’m not enjoying. So, thinking of the description of people as “glowing with health and vitality,” the world LUMINOUS makes sense on that level as well.

Last year’s word was AUTHENTIC, and it certainly helped me get to the point where I am now. 2016 wasn’t an easy year (understatement much ?) but it did have its awesome moments, and I’ve certainly grown as a person. I’m hoping that 2017 will run more smoothly, and allow me to achieve the LUMINOUS results I’m seeking. I want to continue to live my mission to help bring the qualities of the Feminine Divine into wider usage. Our world certainly needs them!

What’s your word of the year? Leave a comment – I’d love to hear what intentions you’re setting for the year to come.

Starcat’s Favorites: Quiet Time

Ah, Winter… I like you more than I used to, dear Winter. I like the quiet lull after the Winter Solstice, when the wind and snow comes and all is swathed in drifts. I enjoy the opportunity to dive deep into visioning what I want the New Year to be, for me. I like the change of calendar and the hope and promise it brings. Thank you, Winter, for your cold and dark, that encourages me to hibernate just a bit and to take some time in the creative cave. Blessings!

I hope you’re able to take some quiet time this weekend to dream up your ideal 2017. Here are some links that can help inspire you in the process.

Here’s an excellent post from Denmark about ways to stay happy in winter. I love this so much.

Thursday was the New Moon in Capricorn, which promises to bring some interesting energies, especially in the realm of love.

Seeking some closure to 2016? Here are some releasing rituals and an end-of-year celebration ritual.

How to get better at receiving.

Looking for good books to read this winter? You know I’ve got you covered on that front. I’ll be sharing my top 10 favorite books in a post next week. In the meantime, check out these lists: Good reading suggestions from one of the author-entrepreneurs I follow. An interesting take on books about money (think fiction and memoirs rather than how-tos).  Also, this essay about how keeping lists of books helped save the author’s life.

Too busy? It’s not just you. The disease of being busy.

I was interviewed in PaganPages about my book Starcat’s Corner: Essays on Pagan Living.

Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll talk to you next year!

It’s Change-Making Time

swtu17Many of us are still processing the U.S. election results and what they mean. It seems unthinkable to me that we’d regress, as a society, just when we’re finally beginning to understand that all beings have innate worth. Open bigotry and misogyny in the 21st century? Really?!

Still, perhaps it’s better out in the open. At least we’ll know who the racist, sexist, homophobic jerks are, so we can avoid them and boycott their businesses. Right?

It seems to me that, in the big picture, this is a temporary regression. It’s based in fear of the unknown.

For those of us who value compassion, diversity, and connection, it’s an opportunity to devote ourselves even more fully to creating positive change. You would think at this point that I’m going to advocate volunteering, protesting, and creating new alliances, and those things are all excellent courses of action.

However, I believe that the most lasting change begins within. When we can reprogram ourselves to be kind and compassionate to ourselves, within the privacy of our own minds, that’s when real progress will be seen. Growing up in the patriarchy, in a society that is fearful of difference, isn’t easy – especially for those of us unable or unwilling to conform. We often come out wounded, timid, and unsure of our self-worth. Yet we are the creative, spiritual beings that our society desperately needs.

Over the past several years, I’ve taken my own journey to reclaim my sense of self-love and worthiness. I’ve shared stories of it here on the blog. Now I want to share with you some of the most effective tools and techniques I’ve discovered along the way.

BlackLion and I are offering a free online workshop, A Self-Worth Tune-Up: Gear Up for an Epic 2017!, in order to help you dig up and transform old beliefs about your own innate worth. This is the perfect time of year to dive into the inner work that will help support you as  you create powerful change in 2017. Join us (and a tribe of like-minded seekers) on Wednesday, January 4th, at 7pm EST. Click here to sign up.

The world needs you to be strong, awakened, and living your soul’s purpose. Support yourself in your sacred work by tapping into your self-worth. Happy New Year!

We Are Not Misfit Toys

cuteshelfpicI’ve been seeing a lot of social media posts by friends and acquaintances who are feeling especially down and worthless lately. Some of them suffer from anxiety and depression, which I understand is caused by brain chemistry – but in my opinion, I think these conditions are often exacerbated by the false expectations our society has of us. And these expectations affect most of us, to one degree or another, making us feel like failures at life.

We’re “supposed to” have the perfect home, of course always pristinely clean and decorated like a magazine photo. The ideal career, providing us plenty of money (if not time) and prestige. Well-behaved compliant children who happily spend most of their waking hours in school or doing homework. A young and slim but curvy body, dressed fashionably and with tidy Barbie hair. And a long list of other “must-do” and “must-have” things that make us a paragon of etiquette, conformity, and consumerism.

What a load of crap!

Many of us see beyond the shallow surface of these expectations and revel in our creativity, wildness, and spirituality. We embrace our loving natures and see through pop culture into what really matters most to us – on our good days, anyway.

Yet living day in, day out in a culture that (almost) never talks about our real passions and struggles wears on us. Many of us begin to feel like the toys in the old Christmas special, the ones relegated to an island, perpetually lonely and misfit. The long-term effects of this can have an adverse impact on our mental and emotional health, whether or not we suffer from a chronic illness.

How can we avoid feeling like misfit toys? How can we stay authentic and strong in our own deepest values, which might have nothing to do with those of our society?

Here are a few tips:

Gather in like-minded community. No matter how niche your passions, there are likely others who share them. Find them online. Seek them out in person. One by one, create a tribe whose values and interests line up with yours. Cherish them. Support one another and spend time laughing and crying and dancing – or whatever floats your collective boat.

Ignore the mainstream media. The thing is, none of us really “has it all together.” We’re here on Earth to learn and grow. The images of the perfect family or career or home or whatever? They’re mostly ways of advertising products. Let go of the images you see and revel in your unique life.

Practice gratitude. Instead of looking at your flaws or what’s not working in your life, examine your blessings. Express thanks for your joys, both the biggies (like being loved) and the small daily ones (like that first steaming cup of coffee or tea). We’re taught to seek what’s wrong and fix it, so training your mind to look for blessings will take time, but it’s absolutely possible. And it will help.

Help someone else. The more real you can be with those you interact with, the better. Authenticity ripples outward. Reach past the normal boundaries and share a smile or a joke with a frazzled checkout clerk. Tip well. Admit when you’re struggling. Give little gifts or compliments to people who seem unhappy or stressed. Helping another will give you warm fuzzies, which uplifts your own feelings of worthiness.

Let something go. You know that thing that you think you “should” do but never quite achieve? Like all the laundry being done and folded, or a home-cooked meal every night, or cleaning out your car? Let it go. Release it and feel how that little piece of stress lightens your load as it floats away. Next week, find another one and let that sucker go, too. Bye-bye, unrealistic expectations!

It can be especially hard to conform to expectations around the holidays. Forget it. Celebrate your way. Enjoy your family and friends – the ones who love you and want to spend time with you. Minimize your time with the judgmental ones.

Do what feels good to you, and let go of the rest. Truly. You’re not a misfit toy. You’re a complex, creative, fantastic human being. There’s no need to try and comply with expectations that leave you feeling worthless. You can stop, and the world won’t end. Try it.

Starcat’s Favorites: Wrapping It Up

feistypercyIs it just me, or is it super hard to believe it’s December already? It’s the big winter holiday month, and time to start wrapping up, not just gifts, but 2016. Many of us are rather glad to see it go. For so many of us, it was a hard year, on both collective and personal levels.

Still, there are always blessings hidden in plain sight within the hard times. I have so much to be grateful for this year, and I’m counting those blessings as I begin to wrap up the year. Chief among them is that my Mom is feeling much better than she did last year at this time. I’m also super psyched that the book I’ve devoted so much energy to this year is, as of this writing, mere days from publication. I’m so thankful for the love and support of my dear family and close friends. And those are just the top three blessings. There are so many more! I encourage you to count your own blessings, as you traverse the often tricky holiday season. The more you focus on what you’re grateful for, the better you’ll feel. Really.

Here are some links for your weekend:

Here’s how to make your holidays more enjoyable and less hectic.

Watch out for these 9 distractions that can keep you from living a joyful life.

Concerned about what’s going on in the world around us? Um, yeah. You’re not alone. There has been some great writing about what we can (and can’t) do. Here are a few excellent posts you might have missed. I’m With Her (it’s not who you might think). Additional ways to support the Water Protectors and protesters at Standing Rock. Author Barbara Kingsolver’s message to her generation. This beautiful post about self-care during the Feminine Divine revolution.

Do you use the terms left brain and right brain? I do. Here’s an article (and interview) that focuses on the science behind our popular concepts of this idea.

Enjoy your weekend, and add some gratitude to your day. Blessings!

Surviving the Spiritual Apocalypse

suncatchThe title of today’s post is a joke, sort of. A couple of weeks ago, BlackLion and I were kicking around various ideas for a subtitle for my forthcoming book, The Heart of the Goddess. My daughter ElvenTiger was listening in, and her suggestion, with a gleam in her eye, was “Surviving the Spiritual Apocalypse.” We laughed.

Then there was this election…

Many of us are now feeling like some kind of “end of the world as we know it” is upon us. It sucks that racism, misogyny, and xenophobia are values that many of our newly elected officials espouse. There’s a lot of fear about what will happen over the next four years, and perhaps beyond. Rightfully so.

And yet…

In the big picture, what we’re seeing is the last gasp of the patriarchy. The Feminine Divine is on the rise. Human consciousness is awakening. The current political climate is a big old backlash against this awakening.

In The Heart of the Goddess, I talk about eight qualities associated with the Divine Feminine: compassion, creative expression, holistic health, intuition, respect for diversity, communion with Nature, spiritual connection, and collaboration. These are things that we’ve been seeing more of in our society over the past few decades, and that we’re going to need to focus on even more now.

I’m so excited to be able to share this vision of how we can learn to embody these qualities in our lives, and ripple them outward into society as a whole. It gives me hope, even when things seem rather bleak.

The book will be out in about three weeks, and I’ll be giving talks and workshops about the qualities of the Feminine Divine. If you’re called to read more on what it’s all about, check out our pre-order page. This is work that the world needs, and if you’re called to it, let’s do it together. We can survive – and thrive – through the spiritual apocalypse, and beyond. Blessings!

Universal Justice

Today seems like a good day to begin our series on the Tarot. I drew a card, asking what the readers of this blog needed to know, and here it is: Justice.


This is from the Mystic Faerie Tarot by Barbara Moore and Linda Ravenscroft. It’s a fabulous deck.

If you, like me, were on the losing side of the U.S. election last week, the notion of Justice being served might still smart a bit. Let’s take a closer look at what it might offer us for wisdom.

Looking at the big picture, which the Major Arcana cards certainly ask us to do, we see that Justice is most firmly connected to balance and the notion of karma.

In the imagery on the card (see above photo), we see the Fae of Justice. She “represents an incredibly powerful magic that is tied deeply to the core of the universe” (p.56, Guide to Mystic Faerie Tarot). As in many Tarot images of Justice, she is blindfolded. This shows her neutrality – Justice doesn’t care about the particular results, only that the decision is balanced and fair.

This fairness relates to the Law of Reciprocity, of cosmic justice. This law says that “energy begets energy, lethargy begets lethargy, negativity begets negativity, kindness begets kindness” (p. 178, Tarot Celebrations). When faced with this card, we must look to the situation and see our part in how it came about. Look to your own past choices, understanding your power and responsibility. The essence of this card is that “what you put out returns to you.”

Looking at our current political situation, this doesn’t mean that you are personally responsible for what has happened. It does mean that what is going on is a result of past choices and actions on the part of many people. Whether it appears that way or not, what is currently happening is a way of “setting things right.” We are human, and often have trouble seeing that bigger picture. But cosmic justice is always in operation.

tarotjustice1The Justice card can help you to evaluate the current situation more clearly. Look at what is right in front of you, setting aside your emotions or attachment. Now examine how your own reactions will affect the future.

The reactions you have now, the actions you take, will help to create your future experiences. The Law of Reciprocity works for us, not against us, when we learn to use it correctly. If you understand that what you put out into the universe returns to you, then you’ll be more aware when making choices.

This card is also about decision-making. Careful deliberation is encouraged. How can you stay in harmony with universal order? Are you being true to your inner wisdom? What type of action would help to balance the situation? Making choices from a place of knowing that negativity will only beget more negativity puts the power back in your hands.

Astrologically, Justice dwells in the realm of Libra, which is all about peace, harmony, social justice, and balance. Libra is ruled by Venus, who teaches us the value of love and beauty. Forgiveness is an essential part of the process of deciding what to do in a crisis. You’ve seen what is in front of you, and whether or not you like it, you can choose to forgive and move on. You can have faith that karmic Justice will prevail. Things will set themselves right once again. You don’t have to take it all on yourself.

What you can do is to look at the deeper issues that underlie the challenge in front of you. Justice brings the ability to see multiple sides of a given situation. You are then more able to move forward in a way that honors the universal order. We are all interconnected; the Wheel of Karma emphasizes the connections between everything that exists. Universal order can seem mysterious, from our limited point of view. We are often given what we need, rather than what we want, and it is our work to accept where we are now, then take inspired action.

So, now that you are fully present with what is, what will you choose next?

What is your place in the cosmic order? What values do you bring to the table? What do you want to offer to the world? Are you willing to accept the energy you put out, when it returns to you? If you’re meeting your situation with anger and resistance, are you okay with creating more of the same?

No matter what you choose, can you forgive yourself for it? Can you forgive others whose choices you don’t agree with?

Returning to the imagery of the card, the Fae of Justice holds both a sword and a set of scales. She uses the scales to weigh what has occurred and determine how to balance the situation. The sword delivers the appropriate reward or punishment. When you stay connected with the awareness that what you put out returns to you, you won’t be so afraid of the consequences. Align yourself with cosmic justice, and act from a place of honoring your inner truths.

Affirm to yourself: “I am willing to be true to myself in all my decisions” (p. 211, Tarot for Your Self). No matter the decision or situation that presents itself, you can stay grounded in universal order by being true to your deepest knowing. Having faith that Justice will ultimately prevail can help you to face what is in front of you, forgive it, and move forward.


Amaral, Geraldine and Cunningham, Nancy Brady, Tarot Celebrations: Honoring the Inner Voice (Samuel Weiser, York Beach, ME; 1997)

Greer, Mary K., Tarot for Your Self: A Workbook for Personal Transformation (Newcastle Publishing, North Hollywood, CA; 1984)

Moore, Barbara, A Guide to Mystic Faerie Tarot (Llewellyn, St. Paul, MN; 2007)

Noble, Vicki, Motherpeace: A Way to the Goddess Through Myth, Art, and Tarot (HarperCollins, New York, NY; 1983)


Starcat’s Favorites: Life Goes On

fd140716thepathOne of the things I love most about life is that, no matter what crises happen, big or small, life goes on. There are always a zillion opportunities to connect, to share kindness and compassion, to show our love. There are present moments, stretching out in a chain from now to forever, ready for us but to awaken.

I think those of us who are particularly intelligent, in an academic brainy sort of sense, can get ourselves into trouble. We take things too seriously, too literally, too personally, sometimes. We forget about our intuition and our heart’s deep knowing. We block out our other perceptions, the ones that are connected to Source, rooted in Spirit. I would urge you, as a reader of this blog (and thus at least somewhat interested in things spiritual) to remember the bigger picture, and connect to that Divine Source.

Here are some fun and interesting links for your weekend. Relax and enjoy!

Have lots of varying interests? It’s fine to pursue all of them – you really don’t have to pick just one.

You don’t have to go out looking for your passion. It’s right there in front of you! Need a little nudge to help you notice it? Here’s a fun and useful tool.

Using permaculture to observe your inner landscape and regain your awareness of interconnectedness. Wow!

Maybe, even now, things are safer than you think. And we are all interconnected.

 “Small acts, when multiplied by millions of people, can transform the world.”