Starcat’s Favorites: Summertime, Summertime

As I write this, it’s less than two weeks until my daughter and her boyfriend come home for a visit. I haven’t seen my dear ElvenTiger since January, so I’m very much looking forward to it!

Although I’ve been missing her, summer has been lots of fun so far. I’ve been swimming a lot, spending some time in my hammock, enjoying cookouts with family, and finally reading Gone With the Wind. I’ve also been working, but I’m doing what I love, so that too is lots of fun. Helping people write their heartfelt books, while also working on my own, is totally my thing!

I hope your summer has brought you lots of joy so far. If it hasn’t, choose something you love to do and make it a priority this weekend!

While you’re lounging on the deck or by the water, here’s some uplifting reading for your day:

Why does yoga feel so good? I mean, really, at the end of yoga class I’m often rather blissed out. Science has some ideas about why.

I like this alternate take on leap and the net will appear. It’s about “recognizing your role as the co-creator of your life.”

Taking self-love seriously. Right on.

This summer recipe sounds so delicious! I haven’t tried it yet, but it’s on my list.

In despair about some of the horrible stuff going on in the world? Here’s an excellent description of how you can help create a better society. What if you get paralyzed by overwhelm? This article has some ideas. Also, here are some inspired words from Toni Morrison about the role of artists in challenging times.

Here’s a practical and profound way to help our world: donate to charity:water. If nothing else, watch Mike Dooley’s inspiring video about it.

Last but not least: Ooh! Shiny pretties! (My fae self just couldn’t resist).

Spreading the Love – The Joys of Snail Mail

This past spring, when I was feeling very shaken from all the crazy stuff going on in my personal life, a good friend made a wonderful suggestion.

We were both attending the same biz retreat (we have the best coach!). In a small group, we were asked to talk about things that were holding us back.

I confessed that when crisis hits, I tend to hide. At a time when it would be useful to reach out for support, my tendency is to pull inward. My friend’s idea was that we gather a few close friends and write each other love letters, which we’d then keep on our own altars until we were having a rough time, but reaching out might not occur to us, or might feel scary.

Then we’d have the letters to open – and reading what our friends love most about us would allow us to feel supported, even if we were hiding.

Last week was the full moon, and my wild women sisters and I had planned some time at our favorite beach. As the day approached, though, the forecast was for heavy rain and thunderstorms.

So we instead gathered at our favorite coffee shop. We sipped chai tea, chatted, and wrote love letters to one another. Several people who usually attend couldn’t make it (even my friend who came up with the idea), but we wrote them letters, too.

I loved doing this so much! There’s something about writing what I love about each woman that feels delicious to my soul.

When I got home that evening, I sat down and wrote a few more letters. I wrote them for new friends as well as longtime ones, and even for the women I’m just getting to know, there was plenty for me to love about them, and to share with them. It was fun mailing them off to find their way to the women’s homes.

Each letter had one sentence in common: “You are beautiful, both inside and out.” It’s so true. Each friend is a lovely soul, and it shines forth – body, mind, and spirit.

I put the love letters I received on my altar, unread. They’ll wait there until I need them.

In the meantime, I’m ready to write some more love letters. I’ve missed letter-writing, and it feels good to know that these love missives will brighten someone’s day.

What about you? Do you still send snail mail? Try spreading the love to those you care about. It will nourish your spirit – and you might just get some love letters in your mailbox, too.

Summer Solstice Dreaming

Last week was the Summer Solstice, and this week is the full moon – between the two, my dreams have been super crazy. I mean, even crazier than they normally are! Anyone else?

In one, I was rollerblading in endless circles through this huge mansion with hundreds of rooms with wooden floors, and trooping down staircases with my feet sideways…until I was caught, in a startling way, and woke up.

In another, I offered to help someone by breastfeeding their baby, just casually, you know, no big deal. Not that I’d have an issue with that in general, but I don’t even think I knew them before that moment!

I’ve been participating in wars against demonic-looking aliens, trying to start a love affair with a man I worked with years ago, and tasting plum cocktails.

And those were just from the past few days!

My emotions have been kind of dynamic, up and down like a rollercoaster, in waking life, too.

As I wrote this, I started wondering what was going on in the stars, astrologically speaking, so I took a peek, and sure enough, there’s a lot happening. The same is true on the world stage, where some of the ugly underbelly of humanity is in the spotlight.

As an empath, I guess I’m getting caught up in those tides. Sometimes being a space-holder involves energies that are bigger than usual.

In the dreamtime, as in the waking world, I’m using my spiritual superpowers to the best of my ability. I still firmly believe that the more compassionate world we’re building, the rise of the Feminine Divine, the awakening of human consciousness – all of those things are real, and on more levels than just the Earth plane.

Keep the faith, fellow humans, and follow your dreams. Create change in your own way, with as much joy and grace as you can muster. We’ve got this.

Following Your Path (Even When You Don’t Understand It)

This year certainly hasn’t started off the way I thought it would!

As I wrote back in March, Quester broke his ankle badly this winter and had to have surgery. Then, 8 weeks into his recovery, he got a severe infection, and had to go back into surgery. We’re now three months out from the break, and he’s still recovering. He can’t get back to work until July at the earliest.

In the meantime, his Mom fell (on the same day Quester did), broke her hip, and died several weeks later from complications. Two other members of our extended family also passed away. My brother and one of my closest friends have both been going through painful divorces. My son moved out – which isn’t a bad thing, but certainly a big transition, especially considering his sister moved across the country back in the fall.

Those are just the highlights – or perhaps I should say “lowlights.”

Holy cow! It’s been a LOT.

Even in the midst of all the chaos, there are so many blessings to be thankful for. My community has been super supportive to us. I started taking yoga classes again, and my practice is blossoming. Daily meditation keeps me as centered as I can be. I’m developing a new aspect of my calling, as a book midwife. Helping people to get their heart-centered books out into the world is incredibly satisfying work! My own writing, while it’s been on the back burner for stretches of time, is still simmering along nicely. I got a new-to-me Subaru and love it. I’ve been to the ocean twice in the past week.

I’ve been following my path as best I can. I don’t know what all of these challenges and lessons are leading to, and may not know for a while. But life is full of uncertainty. Even during the hardest times, there is laughter and sunshine and clean water to drink.

My word of the year for 2018 is ALLOW. I guess if things had gone according to plan, there wouldn’t be any need to learn what this word has to teach me.

Sometimes all we can do is to follow the trail of life, even (or especially) when we don’t understand it.

Even when that happens, you’re not alone. Having a solid spiritual practice means you can fall back on that connection when you’re walking along in the dark. Reaching out to friends and loved ones for support is crucial. Finding the simple blessings in each day will help keep you sane.

I’m curious to see how the rest of this year unfolds. I’m thinking it’s time for some relaxing fun in the sun. But…who knows?

Starcat’s Favorites: A Taste of Spring

This is how we roll in springtime in Maine. Snow and new growth, co-existing until one day the melting accelerates. As I write this, the rain is helping with the melting process.

It’s also the eve of the Full Blue Moon, and nearly the end of March (can I get a resounding “huzzah!”?). It’s been a strange month in my neck of the woods, mostly because my dear hubby Quester fell and broke his ankle, badly, in late February. He had surgery and has been at home recovering since.

It’s made life interesting. As an empath, witnessing my partner in pain on a regular basis is just not so fun. Plus I’ve been caring for him, as he is on “non-weight bearing” status for several weeks – and then there’s all the stuff that he usually does to ensure the household runs smoothly. It’s been quite a ride.

As I write this, Quester is away for a couple of days at his other partner’s place. One of the many benefits of being in a polyamorous relationship is having more beloveds around to help when something like this happens. As BlackLion is also away, visiting a friend, I’m having a bit of a break. This introvert is delighted. Reading, yoga class, some Full Moon celebrating, cuddling with cats – and blogging, too…all are on the agenda for this weekend. And eating sandwiches so I get a break from cooking!

Here are some links for you to enjoy. I hope you’re getting some down time for yourself this weekend, too!

Want to plan some time to yourself? Getting away for a personal retreat is a powerful way to reset.

I knew it – time spent at the ocean is good for the soul.

Why feeling good now is a key to success.

This article about 7 Goddess Archetypes is long, but well worth the read.

Walking your talk.

Thanks for reading. Happy Spring!

How to Make Love to a Priestess

I wrote a poem last night. It’s been a while since my inspiration has gone in such a poetic direction. It started writing itself in my head while I was in the shower, and when I got dried off and grabbed my notebook, this is what emerged.

How to Make Love to a Priestess of the Goddess
by Nikki Starcat Shields

rockpicIt’s a busy time for the priestesses,
What with the rise of the Feminine Divine,
And all that resistance
And backlash
And such.
Your priestess is probably tired,
Though invigorated.
She’s working hard
To heal old wounds,
Uplift the community,
Run her household,
(Like a queen)
And tend to her gardens,
Whether literal or metaphorical,
Or both.
To make love to this priestess,
Approach her in reverence.
Worship her golden being.
Maybe offer to bathe her feet,
Or rub her aching calves.
Be gentle.
Stroke her as if she were a
Wary cat.
Remember all the things she does for you
Every day, without being asked;
The things you might not even notice
Unless they were absent.
Make love to her with an attitude of
Generous service.
Bringing her pleasure,
The way she desires,
Will delight you, as well.
Sometimes she forgets,
In her whirlwind of energy,
That she has a body,
One that can relax and release,
Receive as well as give,
And join in sacred connection
With her beloved consort.
Remind her.

Starcat’s Favorites: Extra Self-Care

It’s that time of year – the winter blahs have set in. Yes, the days are longer and there is the promise of spring. At the same time, at least here in northern New England, it is still quite cold and damp.

The perfect time for extra self-care! I’ve been practicing compassion for myself and taking extra down time when I need it. So far (knock on wood) I haven’t been sick – I think because I’m being mindful of treating my body well.hotcocoa

Sometimes this looks like drinking extra water and doing my hula-hooping. Other times I cozy up with a book and some hot cocoa or tea.

When looking back over the links I’d saved for you this month, it seems like there is a bit of a self-nurturing theme.

So let’s go for it! Grab some inspiration and settle in. You deserve to relax when you need to, and dance around when you feel like it.

In search of some inspiration? Watch Oprah Winfrey’s speech (again, if you’ve seen it already). “Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool that we all have.” Yes!

As of this writing, we just went through the powerful energies of the Full Blue Blood Supermoon with eclipse. Phew! It’s a perfect time to upgrade your beliefs. (Need some help with that? Feline Dreamers has you covered). It’s also Imbolc, when we take time to celebrate the first stirrings of spring and honor the Goddess.

Self-care and bullet journaling? Yes, please! Here is some wisdom and a challenge. Ready to go deeper? These shadow work journal prompts are a useful tool.

Here’s a simple explanation of some of the most basic types of meditation.

Why holding space for one another is some of the most sacred work you can do. Here is a beautiful story about how to do just that.

Weaving the Cord

I’ve been having some fantastic in-depth metaphysical conversations lately – it must be the time of year. Winter seems to hold more space for slowing down and going deeper. BlackLion and I are leading a series of calls over at Good Vibe University called “All Things Woo-Woo.” On yesterday’s call, we were talking about spellcasting.

It was so uplifting to speak with a group of New Age conscious co-creators, most of whom are spiritual but not religious, about the practices and ethics of the Pagan faith. I think people from both camps would be surprised at how well they line up, actually.

One of the spells that I’ve done for years is invisibility. Years ago, I once used it when walking home from work, a trip of about a mile along a busy street. Quester came home early and thought he’d pick me up along the way. He drove up and down the street several times, knowing the route I normally took, but was unable to see me as I walked along the sidewalk.

A friend and I were talking about invisibility recently, and he framed it in a way that made total sense. Normally we attune our vibration with our surroundings – not necessarily on purpose, but because we’re in the flow of that place.

If you think of this vibration as a waveform, then making yourself invisible means changing your waveform just slightly, enough so that you’re not quite as obviously there. You’re moving out of  sync with the coherent waveform that forms the visible input of the people around you. It’s destructive interference, where you’re cancelling out your appearance.

It’s not the opposite of the dominant vibration, but just a little bit off, so you’re sort of slipping between the waves.

I shared about it on the call, and then today I mentioned to the same friend about how much fun it was to connect these two different-but-similar ways of approaching life. We talked about the importance of practice.

Using your will to purposefully affect your experience starts out like a line, a thin thread that you reach out to affect events. As you practice, you’re adding other lines over time, and weaving a cord of magick that you can use to create change.

Brigid'scrossI thought that image was apropos for today, which is the eve of Imbolc or Brigid, the Celtic holy day celebrating the first stirrings of spring. Traditional crafts for the holiday include weaving Brigid’s crosses out of reeds and creating a corn doll that represents the Goddess.

Just as we craft these items of connection to the Divine, so our practice of magick helps us weave a cord that we can use as we make our way through the cosmos.

We can use our gifts and skills to create the change that we want to see in the world.

May it be so.

Why Pessimism Is Lazy

I’ve been noticing lately that some of the most intelligent, creative, and spiritual people I know, when talking about the future, suddenly default to pessimism. This is the case whether they are talking about their personal prospects or the fate of the Earth and her inhabitants.

On some levels, it’s understandable. We’re bombarded by a news cycle that’s centered on all the things going wrong. We’re trained by our culture to look for the problems in our lives, even if they are just 5 percent of the whole picture.

Yet I believe that being pessimistic about the future is just plain lazy thinking.

Why? On a personal level, unless you’re out in the cold, homeless and worrying about your next meal, or sitting in a hospice facility somewhere – and in either of those cases, you’re pretty unlikely to be reading this – you’re doing well.

As BlackLion says, you’ve overcome every challenge you’ve ever faced in your life, up until this very moment.

In the big picture, we’re living at a time where, globally, there is less disease, poverty, and violence than ever before in human history. Look it up. Actually, even in the crucible that was 2017, so many amazing things happened to improve life on our lovely Earth (my thanks to Rob Brezsny for the link). Awareness and compassion continue to grow.

Are there problems in this world? Absolutely. There is plenty of backlash against the progress we’ve made. There are environmental situations that have the potential to make life on Earth more challenging. There are diseases, war, abuse, death, and taxes.

Yet we are here to learn and grow. When you neglect all the things you’ve learned, and default to the cynical babble that you hear on TV, that’s lazy thinking.

You’re unnecessarily giving away your power when you do that.

So how can you be more proactive?

My favorite tool at the moment is awareness. Listen to yourself – the way you speak about the future, in particular. Pay attention to the words you use when you talk to friends, post on social media, or even think to yourself in the privacy of your own mind.

Don’t judge yourself. You’re doing the hard work of breaking what’s probably a very old pattern.

But I challenge you to listen, and notice, and then begin to make the shift.

Bonus homework: stop paying such close attention to the news cycle. I promise, you can stay informed – and eliminate a bunch of toxins from your psyche – by only tuning in to it once a week.

What the world needs most from us – the dreamers, the activists, those who work our conscious magick – is our faith, optimism, and inspired action. Focus more on what you do want than what you don’t, and let your words (and deeds) reflect that sacred focus.

We’ve got this.

Starcat’s Favorites: Greeting a New Year

I remember when I used to hate winter. I don’t so much, anymore. Granted, the cold, ice, wind, and snow are not my favorite things to be out and about in. But the landscape certainly is beautiful, and I like slowing down during this time of year and going into my creative cave.

Thankfully, I’ve crafted a life where I can do just that.

For someone who loves writing, reading, editing, and learning, doing so in the comfort of my warm home while winter does its snowy thing outside is quite lovely. Here are some links I’ve discovered to share with you.

As I cozy up during winter weather, I’ve learned the delights of hygge. That’s just one of the cool things we talked about with Kimberly Moore of the MotherHouse of the Goddess on a recent PawedCats Podcast episode. She’s amazing!

Here are 10 new things to try in 2018 – cool ideas to add to your plans for this next go around the sun.

As of this writing, Danielle LaPorte is giving away digital copies of her book The Desire Map – which is completely fantastic! If you haven’t read (and worked through) it yet, I highly recommend it.

This article says it all: “Maturity, as it turns out, is not really about filing systems or intricately maintained calendars. It’s about showing up in your imperfect form over and over and over again.”

It’s not often that I’d consider linking to a review for a book I haven’t yet read. This is one of those times, as the review itself is well-written and informative. I can’t wait to read the book!

Some really good advice in this article on how to avoid being “miserably successful.”

Happy 2018! I wish you love, joy, creativity, wellness, and abundance.