reverence and joy

  • The Space Between

    “The space between
    The tears we cry
    Is the laughter keeps us coming back for more”
    – Dave Matthews

    Lately I’ve been intrigued by edges, by the spaces between one thing and another. They can often be places of great paradox and deep creativity.

    In many of the Big Debates of our culture – pro choice vs. pro life, Israel vs. Palestine, even the ones about food, where I’ve already chosen a vegetarian lifestyle for myself – I have remained independent. I don’t choose a side because I’m often undecided; I can see pros and cons for both sides of most issues.

    I like it there in the grey area between two opposing ideas, where new alternatives are sparked. While having “situational ethics” is often intended as an insult, I find it to be a realistic way of moving through a constantly-changing world. An example: I don’t steal, yet if my children were starving and I could find no other options, you bet I would swipe some food for them, probably from a big supermarket where there is plenty available. Most of the time the choices aren’t so extreme, but it still seems to me that being flexible and not locked into one particular world view allows me to make a more authentic assessment based on what is actually going on in each moment.

    In permaculture, edges are known to be places of rich biodiversity. Where a meadow meets the forest, or where the rocky shoreline meets the ocean, there is a place that is not one thing nor the other, but contains elements of both. This is where you find plants and creatures who are a bit adventurous, flexible in their needs, ready for growth and expansion.

    The notion of the “edge” in yoga practice is the place where dynamic tension dances. When applied to a stretch, the edge is the place where you’re pushing your comfort zone just a bit. You’re not stretching too far or using force, which would be harmful, nor timidly stretching so little that you’re barely challenging yourself. Your edge is an interface between where you are and where you’re going, and is a place of great learning. Your edge is where you can lean into a stretch and coax your body toward flexibility. 

    Knowing where the edges of your self meet the rest of the world is valuable. Otherwise you have no boundaries, and will be caught up in everything that goes on around you, spun by the tides of random energies. This is especially key for those of us who are empaths. We tend to pick up on the feelings of others and can have a hard time figuring out which emotions are truly our own.

    “When we don’t know where our edges are, everything is equally important, and equally unimportant. We feel like we have to do everything and please everybody. Or we withdraw into lethargy and paralysis.  Either way, we lose ourselves inside the overwhelm.” – Justine Musk

    Our own edges are often in motion, and this is a good thing. While we want to create healthy boundaries, we don’t want to become isolated inside our own little bubble, stuck in our habits, comfortable but stale.

    In everyday life, you can use the notion of your edge to gently encourage yourself to keep growing, learning, and moving towards your dreams. Play with your edges, your boundaries, the outer limits of comfort where you step off into a new adventure. Relax your beliefs a bit, open your mind, and let paradox flow in. Isn’t it more valuable to learn new things than to seek experiences that confirm what you think you already know?

    My favorite edge space to explore recently is the space between sleep and waking, or waking and sleep. It’s that liminal space you inhabit when drifting off to sleep or awakening from dreams. In this ever-shifting boundary between one type consciousness and another, much magick awaits. I drop my intentions into the mist, letting images ebb and flow. I watch for what new manifestations might appear in my waking life. The results are often surprising.


  • How to Incorporate More Creativity Into Your Daily Life

    Want to know how to live a more creative life? Ask your inner self. No, really.

    I was searching through one of my journals, looking for some notes I’d made, and came across the following advice. It was from two summers ago, in 2012, and was written during a Full Moon circle. The intention of the meditation was to ask questions of your inner self. At the time, my first book was being prepared for publication.

    My query was apparently about how to balance creativity with the other demands of daily life.

    Reading it again, I realized that not only was it good advice, but that it was universal enough to share. I hope it inspires you and allows you to expand your creativity.

    Dear You,

    To address your inner questioning about being the one who organizes and keeps the family on track: sometimes you must simply let go and trust that they can find their way even if you’re more focused inward on free-flowing creativity. Enlist their aid. Let your needs be known.

    Perhaps there is a way to do the organization ahead of time, so that you have longer stretches of time in which to live in your world of imagination. That’s why you’ve been drawn to going to bed earlier lately, to be in your sacred space without anyone having any expectations of you.

    Let your art, your writing, be more a part of your day, without constraining it to a particular topic or purpose. As you do this, your connection will be stronger and your creativity will expand. Then you can do the work of organizing and editing the written work later. This allows the poetic side more room to play and explore, to spread its wings more, to come forth in a broader river, rather than feeling constrained to a stream or a trickle of energy.

    Continue to reach out to others and make connections. That’s how your web of light, or your part in it, will reach a wider audience of people. You are already a part of the creative economy, the growth of the cultural creatives; you stand there as a peer, and it seems that your book [being published] will now allow you to believe it.

    So continue to reach out, to offer your creations to a wide variety of other free spirits, and you will all uplift one another. These are your sisters and brothers in the light. These are the people you connect with, and there is no accident or coincidence.merlin-7616301

    You are doing the work you’re meant to do, at the right time and in the right way.

    Follow your feelings as to which actions to take. If something feels a bit off, set it aside and find what resonates. Let your days flow more, trust the process, and you’ll find that you’ll accomplish even more.

    And don’t feel guilty for taking time to rest, or to have time to yourself. You need that as a way to recharge and replenish your batteries. Follow your intuition in regard to caring for your physical body, as well. Don’t judge yourself so much in that regard. It will look different each day. You are a creative being, and will always fight a regimented schedule. Let it flow more, and really trust that all will be well, and you will “get stuff done.”

    Or if you don’t, then it probably didn’t really need to be done anyway, and that really is okay. It fact, everything is okay, and more than than, it’s fantastic! Blessed be, dear one.


    Your Inner Self


  • What Is Your Gift to the World?

    Did you ever wonder why you’re here? I mean, of all the things you do, what was your soul’s ultimate purpose in coming here?

    What is your greatest gift to the world?

    One morning while I was on vacation, I listened to New Dimensions on the local community radio station while I was doing my yoga (it’s a fantastic show). The guest that day was author Jonathan Robinson. He shared several interesting stories, as well as tips and techniques for becoming happier.

    The one that stuck with me most was a question he told listeners to ask themselves:

    What would you do if you had plenty of money and yet were still required to work 40 hours each week?

    Answering this question will help you get to the answer to “in other words, what is the work that you find so rewarding or important that you would do it for free?”

    I encourage you to engage with this question in two ways. First, answer it now, as you’re reading, right off the top of your head. What springs to mind immediately?

    Next, take some time to think about it and ponder what you would do in this position. Take some time to picture the life you would lead if you had all the resources you needed. What calls to you? What is your sacred work? Is it something you already do, or a lifelong dream that hasn’t been realized yet? Write out the answers in your journal.

    I’ve found this exercise to be a valuable reminder of my purpose in this lifetime. I hope it will do the same for you. If you’d like to share, leave a message in the comments section. I’d love to hear about your life’s passions!


  • Why You Should Make a Vision Board

    I love to make vision boards. I’m not sure when I first encountered the concept, but it was in connection with manifesting the things that you wish to bring into your life. The idea is that collecting relevant images and words in one place helps your conscious and subconscious mind focus more clearly on your goals and desires. This will aid you in bringing those things into your experience.

    Me with my latest vision board, created in a workshop at Life Rocks in June.

    My latest vision board, created in a workshop at Life Rocks in June.

    Rather than see them as mere shopping lists of the things I want, though, I’ve evolved into using vision boards as a space to play with designing how I want my life to look, feel, and become.

    Want to have some fun and get in deeper touch with yourself? Try making one! All you need is paper, scissors, glue, and old magazines. If you don’t have old magazines to use, ask a friend for theirs, or print pictures that you find online.

    The best part of making vision boards, for me, is the actual process of sitting down and paging through the magazines, finding images and quotes that appeal to me, and then creating a layout of words and pictures. I very quickly fall into a meditative state. It’s like supercharged daydreaming. Creating a vision board can help you get in touch with a deep part of your inner self, and as you craft your board, you are also putting your intentions forth into the universe.

    I’ve made so many vision boards over the past few years that I’ve compiled them into a book. It’s so much fun to page through it, and it has become a chronicle of my spiritual journey. Mine is a scrapbook that I purchased from a craft supply store, one of those where you can insert your pages into clear plastic holders. You could also use any kind of notebook or binder, or glue your cutouts directly onto the pages of a sketch book.

    Just as the things you desire will change over time, so will your vision boards. This is fine. In my view, the purpose of vision boards isn’t just to manifest your dreams. It’s also to discover more about yourself and your place in the world. Vision boards allow you to set aside the rational, doubting side of your mind and access your creative dreamer.

    The images you choose don’t have to be realistic. You might not have the money for that pilgrimage to Tibet right now, but so what? If you’re longing to visit there someday, add the images you find to your vision board. Who knows what might result? Being open to your dreams is one of the keys to manifesting them, or perhaps something even better. At the very least, you’ll discover new things about yourself and your deepest desires. Try it!


  • Starcat’s Favorites: The Heart of Summer

    Do you feel like summer is just zooming right by? Me too. What can we do to make summer linger a bit more? That’s simple. Make an effort to get outside and enjoy it.

    fd140716somessoundI know, you’re busy. Me too. But let’s face it, the warm weather months won’t wait for us to check off all the items on the ever-present to-do list. Take a break. Get outside for a picnic, BBQ, walk, hike, swim, some puttering in the garden, or whatever floats your boat. Enjoy it!

    Here are some thought-provoking and fun links to peruse while lounging on your beach blanket or camp chair…

    Did you pick a Word of the Year for 2014? It’s time to check in and see how your word is inspiring you now.

    This post provides a wealth of fascinating resources for exploring what Jung called our “shadow side” and how it relates to art and creativity. Follow the links to go down the rabbit hole!

    Here’s another interesting article on the contribution of various factors, including practice and talent, toward achieving mastery.

    Those of us doing creative work along with parenting or other care-giving, housekeeping, and working for others can be challenged with managing our time. How do we prioritize our creative work?

    Teenagers keeping late-night hours?! Who would have thought!? Nope, it’s nothing new.

    This is a terrific post on how to mentor your kids when they have big dreams. “Don’t set limits where limits aren’t necessary.” Love it.


  • Feminine Energies Are Rising

    When we were preparing for my women’s group’s Summer Solstice gathering, one of the women mentioned that this is the time of year when feminine, or yin, energies are on the rise. I hadn’t really thought of it that way before. At the Winter Solstice, we always hear how the light is returning, and everyone is really glad for those lengthening days during the heart of winter. Yet at Summer Solstice, we don’t even want to think about the fact that the days already grow shorter, marching steadily toward that darkening time. That one comment, though, shifted my viewpoint on this time of year.

    We’re in the heart of summer, really, and the time when the natural world is all in bloom. Fresh vegetables and fruits abound. The Mother is giving us her gifts of abundance and joy.

    Yin energies – feminine, passive, hidden and shadowy like a moonlight night – and yang energies – masculine, active, open and bright like the sunny side of a mountain – are complementary forces. We all have them inside of us, as essential parts of our nature. Thinking about the Wheel of the Year in this way can help us be sure we’re honoring each of these forces, merging them together, living as the holistic being that we are.

    When the new year began, we were active and excited about our goals for the year. Spring brought with it more activity, as we went out and did what we wanted to do, making things happen in our lives. Now, as we’ve turned the corner past the longest day, it’s time to slow down and contemplate our journey. It’s time for reaping the harvest, for receiving the consequences of the actions we’ve taken.

    Summer is often busy, and it can be tempting to just keep going, to fill these long golden days with activity of all kinds. Can you commit to taking breaks where you don’t have to do anything, and can just be with yourself? Taking some time to relax and daydream about the big picture will ultimately help you create the life you wish to lead.

    Here are some questions to start with. You’ll come up with your own as you let yourself unwind.

    What are your priorities in life? How do your daily actions reflect those priorities? What energies are you currently receiving from the universe? What ideas, concepts, or intuitions are hidden in your psyche? When you are still and quiet, often messages will arise from your inner self, like soft ripples on a still lake. Sit in stillness and see what the yin currents of this season might carry your way.


  • O Beloved Summer!

    Hello lovely readers! I hope you’re enjoying the summer thus far. I certainly am. I had the delight of a week-long vacation with Quester, enjoying our favorite Maine places, Ellsworth and Mt. Desert Island. It was a much-needed respite from the busy time that came before it.

    babytigersBack in late June, Elven Tiger, BlackLion and I got to visit a wildlife refuge and meet lots of amazing big felines. This included seeing the new tiger triplets being fed! They knead their paws in the air so adorably. They are not with their mother because she was feeling distressed having the papa tiger nearby, and the babies are also soon on their way to another wildlife park. It’s sad that these tigers’ natural environment is diminishing, but hopeful that they are able to have babies and find loving humans to give them a safer place to live. They cats at this wildlife park seemed content and well cared for. We loved connecting with big felines of all types! We’ll have more pictures for you soon on the Feline Dreamers website.

    Here are some pictures of my trip up north with Quester earlier this month. I had such a great time! I adore Acadia National Park.





    This is the sunset at Quester’s family camp on the ocean, where we stayed.fd140716faesunset3


    We did a lot of hiking…fd140716hiking




    As well as some swimming and kayaking…fd140716lake


    And, of course, I did yoga!



    We spent time with family, celebrating Quester’s Mom’s 80th birthday and admiring his sister’s flower

    And hung out with our friends in the area. I finally learned to play cribbage, thanks to Quester and a good friend of ours who is working in the area this summer.


    It was the perfect vacation. The weather was great, we had delicious food, listened to good music, and took plenty of time to relax and enjoy each other’s company. BlackLion and the kids did a great job holding the fort back at the homestead.

    There have been sorrows mixed in with the joys, such as the loss of Jean, a dear woman from my women’s group, to cancer. Sometimes reminders of how precious this life is can help us to cherish it more, and I’ve found that to be the case. Hiking along a trail in Acadia National Park, I was thinking about both Jean and my sweet friend Jenn who died last year, and how they would most likely want me to be right where I was at that moment, enjoying the view.


    Once we got home, ElvenTiger and I had a mom-and-daughter trip to the beach, as well as many jaunts to the pond. We sure do love to swim!



    Be sure to take some time for enjoyment this summer, or make everything you do fun. Blessings!


  • Lucky 600

    djv2i35So, WordPress tells me that this is my 600th post on this blog! Wow. I started it in 2006, so that means I’ve posted 75 times each year (on average), and 1.5 times per week (again, as an average). That’s pretty neat.

    I very much enjoy blogging. I started out doing it as a way to get myself to write more often, and to share those writings with a wider audience. So far, so good. I write much more than I did back then – ditching the full-time day job helped – and I’ve now had 2 books published! With many more in the works.

    Blogging really affords the opportunity to be myself and write about all the varying interests I enjoy. That’s probably not a biz-savvy way to present yourself, but I don’t care. I’m writing about what I love and what occurs to me, and I know the people who share those interests will be drawn to it (that’s you!).

    So, darling reader, if you’re reading this, and do so on a regular basis, you probably enjoy my writings. Either that or you’re being masochistic, and let’s not go with that. Perhaps you’d like to dive in deeper. So, what exactly do I have in the works? Here’s the current list. I’m a Virgo, so I love lists. Bear with me.

    • The Door Is the Key: A Modern Faerie Tale is the novel that BlackLion and I drafted back in November. We’re working on the revisions, and I’m thinking it will be available in the fall.
    • Simple Stir-Fry and Stovetop Suppers. This is a vegetarian cookbook that BlackLion and I are working on. We have lots of yummy recipes that are being readied for publication. There will be gluten free options and we’ll suggest lots of healthy pantry items and ways to use local foods. Yum!
    • The next NaNo novel. I’m going out on my own this November and drafting my first solo full-length fiction. I think it’s gonna be a paranormal thriller. Let’s just say it will involve some dark magic, a variety troupe, big cats, and casino gambling. That’s all I can share for now.
    • The Heart of the Goddess. This book is inspired by the spirit of my friend Jenn, who passed away last fall. Right now it looks like it will involve stories of people in modern culture who have had direct experiences with the Divine Feminine. Intrigued? I am! This one is emerging as it sees fit, and will likely evolve as the concept is unveiled to me.
    • Establishing and Maintaining a Daily Spiritual Practice. That’s a rather boring working title, but the text is already partially written and is coming along great, if I do say so myself.

    I guess that’s enough for now. I’m lucky and blessed with lots of ideas and creative inspiration, so this is very subject to change as the mood strikes and the muse moves me.

    I’m also open to sharing about topics that readers are curious about. Have questions or requests? Let me know in the comments!


  • Multidimensional Joy

    Here’s a quote about joy and its many facets, from one of my favorite metaphysical authors.

    “Let us take a particular feeling and follow it through as it might be expressed at various levels of consciousness. Begin with a feeling of joy. In normal consciousness, the immediate environment will be perceived in a far different manner than it would be, say, if an individual were in a state of depression. The feeling of joy changes the objects themselves, in that the perceiver sees them in a far brighter light. He creates the objects far more vividly and with greater clarity. In feedback fashion, the environment then seems to reinforce his joy.”

    “What he sees, however, is still physical, the objects of the material world. Pretend now that he begins to daydream and falls into a reverie. Into his inner mind comes pictures or symbols of material objects, people or events, from perhaps the past as well as present and future imaginings, the joy now being expressed with greater freedom mentally, but with symbols.”

    “The joy stretches out, so to speak, into the future, sheds also its light into the past, and may cover greater areas of expansion than could be shown in physical terms at that moment. Now imagine that our individual from his reverie falls either into a trance state or into a deep sleep. He may see images that are highly symbolic to him of joy or exuberance. Logically there may be little connection between them, but intuitively the connections are clear. He now enters into his mental experiences far more deeply than in the reverie state, and may have a series of dream episodes in which he is able to express his joy and share it with others.”

    - Seth, from Seth Speaks – The Eternal Validity Of The Soul


  • Dancing with the Feminine Divine


    ElvenTiger – devotee of Brigid, and perhaps Artemis?

    After writing the post on feeling mostly gender-neutral, I got thinking about why I’m so drawn to connecting with the Divine as female, as Goddess.

    Part of it is because I’m a feminist, and as such I’m not fond of the patriarchy and its stern, imposing monotheistic God. By feminist, I mean that I’m in favor of justice and equal rights for all, no matter their gender or sexual preference. I see human beings as souls on a learning path, and part of our lesson is to embrace love and compassion.

    Christianity is the dominant faith in my culture, but I wasn’t personally raised in any church. And frankly, I never really resonated with it when I looked into it. I’m not dissing anyone else’s religion, not at all. I know men and women who find great meaning in Christianity. It’s just not for me.

    What makes sense to me, in the really big picture, is that the Divine encompasses all genders, and goes far beyond mere human form. It is All That Is, and everything in the cosmos is made up of Divine energy.

    On a practical level, here on the Earth plane, I’ve found resonance in the idea of Goddess and God, and the seasonal dance between the dualities – as well as all the other mystical energies that spill over the edges of that paradigm. As I walk my spiritual path, I find meaning in archetypes and myths, and I relate to the energies that they embody in the world. I don’t mean myth as in, “that’s just a myth.” I believe that the deities of Earth do exist, and that we can enter into relationship with them. I also believe your experience will be unique to you, and reflect your own beliefs and desires as well as those of your chosen deities.

    I connect with these sacred forces in many different ways: as the elements, Earth, Air, Fire, Water, and Spirit; as Mother Earth or Gaia, who is our beloved planet (and the closest thing to a deity that I was raised with); and sometimes as individual Goddesses, like Brigid, Kwan Yin, Athena, and Artemis. Yes, there are Gods I resonate with, too, especially Cernunnos, the Green Man.

    Yet often when I wish to connect more purposefully with the Divine, it is the Mother to whom I turn. And She never lets me down.


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